My wedding did actually happen back in September. You may find it hard to believe because I haven’t really shared a lot about it on the blog yet. I do have a draft started, but usually I can squeak out an average of two sentences before I end up becoming so emotional that I have to stop. I just have a lot of feelings. I take that to mean I’m just not ready to share all the details just yet. (Ps. It could not have been more wonderful).
I may not be ready to express what the day meant to me, but I do feel ready to share with you some of the bone-headed things I did in hopes that you do not do those things as well. I guess I’ll tell you a few things I did right, too. Believe me, this will be the most unconventional wedding advice you will ever receive.
Go up a size in your dress
I bought my dress in January 2014 and, for some unknown reason, was incredibly skinny at the time. Fast forward to my second official fitting and me having a nervous breakdown over my dress barely zipping and looking/feeling like a stuffed sausage. The advice to “go up a size” may only really apply to stress-eaters like myself but it is definitely something to think about. Mainly, know your self and your body. I was so caught up in “Heyyy look at me I’m so skinny!” when Andrea told me what size she was ordering I wasn’t thinking clearly. And for me, I should have told her to go up a size up because there was a very slim chance I would maintain that weight for almost an entire year. Maybe your weight doesn’t fluctuate like mine (lucky) but ordering that size dress was honestly one of the main “regrets” from my wedding. Because let me tell you how expensive it is to let out an already expensive dress…VERY.
Take a picture/video of how to bustle your dress
Oy. I had at least six different (intelligent) people try to figure out the two-tiered, ribbon-tie system that the seamstress made to bustle my dress and we no one could figure it out. The last thing I wanted to do during my wedding reception was stand still and let people mess with my dress for extended amounts of time while there was dancing to be done so we gave up. In the end it looked pretty weird and I was tripping over it all night (tripping so bad I fell on my face at one point but I’m not fully ready to talk about that yet).
Don’t take allergy medicine
…If you plan on drinking AT ALL. I’ve never been a medicine taker, I usually tough out headaches, cramps, whatever. But my allergies have really been bad this year and I didn’t want to be saying my vows and sneezing my head off so I took an allergy pill someone handed me late in the afternoon. Fast forward to 10 PM and a few glasses of wine later; I felt like I had been roofied. Apparently, you aren’t supposed to drink alcohol while taking allergy meds. Not the lesson you want to learn on your wedding night, trust me.
Don’t forget your marriage license
HEAR ME OUT. Obviously, I know you need a marriage license to get married. What I didn’t know (because thanks so much you helpful people at the county clerks office) is that they give you TWO. One fancy one that you are supposed to frame or something ridiculous, and then the real one (THAT THEY STUFF IN AN ENVELOPE BEFORE HANDING TO YOU BECAUSE THAT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE). Anyhoo, IF you do happen to forget it you have 90 days after your ceremony to get another one signed and settled (in Indiana, it may be different where you live).
Hire a wedding planner
Like for real. DO IT. Most of them have options to just help you the day of the wedding, which is originally what we booked ours for. Then we came to our senses and hired Planning…Forever Events take care of our decor/flowers too. I seriously did not stress over one thing on our wedding day. Saundra was all over anything and everything that came up. And I mean LOOK at these bouquets…she KILLED IT.
Find your voice, before your wedding day
This one might be a little bit cliche and I apologize for that but I really feel like it’s important. Be a person that can voice their opinions BEFORE you begin planning your wedding or I am telling you, you will be walked over by “people who know better.” They all mean well because you know, “they have done this a million times!” but if you are not a person who can stand up for want you want you will find yourself listening to the elevator music version of The Circle of Life while you are eating dinner. And nobody wants that.
Photos by Photorexit Photography